I have been working for almost 5 years now (3 yrs of CA internship and 2 yrs at Bank). But the question of striking a balance arrived when i got married. Lets see, can i strike a 50-50 balance?? mmm...nope not always! I am a workaholic and am 110% dedicated to my job.
Do i strike a balance? Initially nope, but since several months YES! when i said 'no' that did not mean i used to spend less time with family, but i carried work on my shoulders...i think about it even at home! Not healthy, i know..
I make most of the time i spend with family now. So even if its 2 hours, its a GOOD quality 2 hrs (Thumbs Up!!). My husband never complains (touch wood), he has seen me work my a** off during my internship and knows WHAT he got married to..hehe;) I make sure i attend to him well and of course i love him, so its never a task its always out of ♥. More over make sure you share work life with your spouse. They should be aware of the kind of day you had. Don't expect to be understood unless you talk!! I think this is a common issue with women than men, we expect to be understood without justifying. Focus on spending more time talking to each other or engaging in activities together, than watching TV, cause then your just physically present.
Family - Never ever take them for granted. Take this as a confession - 3 years of internship was like being trained for war. weekdays i worked and weekends i had class. Public holidays called for extra classes (yea no joke!). I lived with my mum alone and probably ended up giving her nil attention (snif...). I realize it now and attend to all their needs. They can count on me any time of the day. I have a ground rule - PARENTS NEED NOT JUSTIFY THEMSELVES...you take it without questions, you owe it to them!
WORK, be it anything, keeps you on your toes. You become more efficient and you multi task. Because Humans can multi task. One has to push their limits cause your brains can actually take much more. Personally, i do not think quiting work would bring you any closer to family, its simply the quality of time that matters. And i may not be striking a perfect balance but let's try...
Do you strike a balance??? xoxo♥♥
Disclaimer - This blog expresses my personal opinion.